About hsv-1 and lupus?

I just had some blood work done and I believe it was the IgM test. It was positive for hsv-1 but negative for hsv-2. I immediately asked my doctor if this is something that could be spread through kissing and he ured me that it could not. He said there were two types of anti-bodies and that whichever one I had meant I would only get cold sores but couldn't necessarily spread the disease? My largest concern out of all of this is that there is a girl I'm pretty sure I'm in love with and it is reciprocal. However, she has Lupus and she is very intelligent; she says that if she were ever to contract HSV-1 or HSV-2 it would severely complicate her condition and her life. So ... is there any way to not give this to her? It has to be a guarantee I can be with her without transmission or else I will have to move on.